Perhaps these pervasive lifestyle were imported or
it is a sort of generational evolution! Moral probity is what I am talking
about especially as it concerned African women vis-à-vis sex. African women
folks appear to have thrown cautions to the wind as they no longer respect the
value-laden perspective of Africa that places them as a huge treasure – too
dignified to come cheap. The cultural sanctity of Africa is not in doubt but it
doesn’t seems to hold nor direct our lives anymore.
But even our religions
disapproves sexual impudence, one can quickly recollect that both Quran and the
bible impugn sexual intercourse outside the covenant of marriage, a portion of
the Quran says ‘’… And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it
is ever an immorality and is evil as a way’’, in same spirit, Corinthians 6:18
enjoins ‘’ flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is
outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body…’’.
So reinforcing is the African cultural value that
raises sex to a height of sacredness and human dignity suppose not practise
except within the context of marriage. Many African cultures recognising that
sexual urge is far compelling however, encourages early marriage as an anecdote
to sexual decadence and its addendum civil crisis like rape, harassment and
what have you. Sadly, one does not need an observation pill in our society of
today to recognise that even in the presence of this religious-cultural
cautions, sex is absolutely free, abundant and only condom goes for a pittance
sum – of course affordable by even the impoverished.
Alas food prices hitherto are all time high!
People in category of septuagenarian witnessing the
unbundled, pardon, de-regularise sex sector will say ‘’how do we get here’’ in
a tone that wish time could turn back to when the society is innocent, pure and
prosperous. Those time when you can have your wife stay with a friend without
you looking back and thinking about how his six pack of which you are lacking
will lure her, those years when mother in-law, wont seduce son-in-law with bump
short in her daughters home, those days when no African woman will concede to a
fuck-mate (fling) relationship, those past years when our negroes women still
give a damn about self-dignity. I say ‘’ African society has turn against
itself, and everyone is a victim’’.
Yoruba in their wisdom posits: ‘’kokunrin to atorin,
kobinrin to atorin, kawo eni ti o lomi leyin ese jura won lo’’. They normally
say this to warn women against sexual promiscuity – in particular to say that
women bear consequence of immorality more than men does.
Today, if one gather 10 women, hardly will one find
any which is sexually virtuous and still virgin: virgin has become more scarce
than Gold, surprising! Women have made sex cheap so much so that men don’t have
to lure with sweet words nor expensive gift. Pussy is worth nothing again but a
smooth hole, easy to come-by. Have witnessed a scenario when at a friend
birthday bash, a strange guy met a strange lady at the party and the next
thing, they are having sex behind the stage backdrop, ensconced in the ecstasy,
the lady start to moan and that drew attention of party attendees. The issue
here is not them being caught but the deep embarrassment that chase the lady
away with her clothe wrapped over her face and forgetting her shoes while the
guy came back to the dance-floor with his ego revved up – women always loose
right? – You are damn right! Another was a woman caught with his husband driver
doing the filthy thing at their home garage; the man would end up divorcing the
woman. I can recount several other ridiculous instances and am sure you have
gotten a handful of experiences too. I ask, what is happening to our women, I
mean our African women? Where did they import this bizarre habit from?
Absolutely, this pervasive culture is foreign to Africa and is ruining our
family. It is damaging our society and depleting our erstwhile strong
spirituality – genuine love is going extinct, rape is on the increase and now
incest is a new but huge injury to Africa. It is sardonic albeit surprising
that durex condom placed Nigerian women as third most unfaithful in its recent
research on sexual infidelity. Could this be true considering the attitude of
western cultures towards sex? And should this be true, Nigerian (African) women
must buckle up and retrace their steps towards abiding by the time-honoured
truism that says ‘’ A virtuous woman is worth far more than ten thousands
rubies, more than an ocean of treasures!
African Women are meant to be treasured. African
Women are supposed to be scarce to get down with. African Women are supposed to
be a bastion of character. African Women are supposed to be too precious to toy
with and too self-willed and strong to be turned to a punching bag. Meanwhile,
contrary to the afore-said, African women of today have rendered themselves to
be considered as just a mere, senseless and feeble being that are easy to
control and cheap to get down with.
It is important to note that men shower attention,
care and profound respect on women when seeking to get down with them but
become bossy, uncaring and indifferent as soon as they have their way.
Against the aforementioned I submit that African
women folks caused themselves the fall from position of respect and awe and if
they ever care to elevate themselves to their rightful position of honour and
dignity, they must by any means possible make sex scarce and real hard to get…
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