MARRIAGE: HOW REALLY LONG CAN LOVE LAST?

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At a wedding reception I attended some years ago, the chairman of the occasion, in his advice to the couple said, “Love has done and completed its work in this relationship today in bringing the two of you together. What remains now is for tolerance, respect, trust, submission, etc, to continue where love has ended.” He was simply saying that all love does in any marriage is to attract the two people involved together. After this, some other virtues must take over from love if the marriage must survive.

MARRIAGE: THINK LIKE A WIVE BUT ACT LIKE A SEXY MISTRESS

Wives should learn how to be their husbands’ mistresses in order to keep the marriage secure. This is not to say that it is their sole responsibility to keep the marriage; rather, it is to enable them to play their own part in keeping their marriages. I am a strong advocate that a woman has all it takes to keep her marriage. All that she requires is the will. Once there is the will, there will be a way.

Being great emotional beings, women are wired to be great lovers. So, it should not be difficult for a woman to love and express her love as it is the sustenance of every marriage. Every wife should endeavor to be her husband’s lover. When this is achieved, her husband will have no need of a mistress.

MARRIAGE: DO WIVES ALSO BEGS FOR SEX?

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In many instances, the issue of sexual dissatisfaction is treated as a male problem or issue: it is the man who is never sexually satisfied; he is the one who is always asking for more sex, and yet never satisfied. And as a result, the emphasis is on how to ensure sexual satisfaction for the man.

However, the truth of the matter is that wives also cry for sex. I mean, more sex. Many wives are dying on the inside, craving for more sex from their husbands. They wish their husbands had more time for sexual activities with them; that their husbands had more power packed into their manhood to ensure greater pleasure; that their sex life is above the ordinary; that their husbands do not turn down so often, their sexual requests.

MARRIAGE: WHEN IN-LAWS BECOMES OUTLAWS?

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For this reason a man shall leave his mother and father and cling to his wife, the two shall no longer be two but one.” No doubt we must have heard this common biblical proclamation one or two times at wedding ceremonies.

What follows from the presiding pastor or spiritual mentor often times will be the fact that the new couple should be left alone by parents and family members from both sides; the bride and the groom, so that they can live their life and build their own family.

Most often than not, this admonition does not hold water with some parents as they take delight in meddling with their children’s new home? Ifeoluwa, got what she did not bargain for few weeks after her wedding. During courtship, her mother-in-law whom she fondly calls mum related very well with her and whenever she was in any gathering where any mother-in-law maltreats their son’s wife’s is being discussed she would tell anyone who cared to listen that she was sure she would enjoy her mother-in-law as she sees the mother she didn’t have in her.

Her tale however changed, just few weeks after her wedding. According to her, her newly wedded husband was opposed to the fact that she wanted his mother to stay a little with them after their wedding.

SEXUAL OFFENCES BILL: PROFESSOR WOLE SOYINKA WRITES SENATE, SEND AHMED YERIMA TO THE GUTTER

Professor Wole Soyinka

Nobel laureate, Professor Wole Soyinka, has added his voice to the growing opposition over the sexual offences bill hurriedly passed by the immediate past Senate of the 7th National Assembly. He wrote a letter to the present set of senators.

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Dear Friends and Comrades,

Regretfully, I am unable to be with you tomorrow morning. However, I extend a warm embrace to you in your resolve to keep within Nigeria’s short memory the events that have been central to the attainment of our democracy – warts and all – enjoyed today by you and me. June 12 remains the true Democracy Day despite the unprincipled efforts of some prime beneficiaries of that struggle to expunge it from a people’s chronicle.

If I had been able to join you, I would most certainly have asked you for help. It has to do with the nation’s latest alleged legislative stance against sexual abuse – molestation, rape, pedophilia etc. I am only a layman, not a“learned brother”, so any help from the learned is earnestly solicited. The question on my mind is this: is that legislative reinforcement not merely a case of rubbing Vaseline on leprosy?

BEFORE NIGERIA, THERE WAS GHANA BY PROFESSOR AKIN OSUNTOKUN

Professor Akin Osuntokun

The typical Marxian line is that incontinent intra ruling-elite squabble always carries with it the risk of playing into the hands of its class enemies; and could be generalised as a manifestation of the ubiquitous internal contradictions of capitalism and self-destructive tendency towards the commitment of class suicide. The altercation between Theophilus Danjuma and former President Goodluck Jonathan lends itself to the interpretation of this analytical school of thought and, fleetingly, averted my mind to the possibility of a replay of Jerry Rawlings style purge of the Nigerian ruling class. To a lesser degree, a similar behaviour was on display at the rancorous commencement of the eighth National Assembly. Danjuma said: “What we are hearing is that the treasury of the country is empty at the federal level. A debt of $60 billion would be left behind for the incoming government…I’m calling on the new administration to investigate what happened to our monies as soon as Buhari takes over power on May 29.

JUNE 12: BUILDING THE FUTURE FROM THE PAST

For many Nigerians, the June 12, 1993 presidential election was the point at which the nation’s political landscape was heading for a change as it was believed that personalities from a section of the country were the ones dominating the leadership of the country. Hence, it was believed that the crusade of the Hope ‘93 train ushered a paradigm shift, creating a new quest for alternative leadership outside the then existing caucus. The popularity and eventual victory of businessman turned politician, late Chief MKO Abiola in a poll he ran on the platform of the then Social Democratic Party (SDP), is still considered unprecedented in the democratic history of the nation and was greeted with massive celebration across the length and breadth of the country. On June 12, 1993, Nigerians could see a reflection of their choice at the poll taking precedence thereby summoning hope that all is not lost after all for the country. It is on record that Abiola won in the Federal Capital Territory (FCT), Abuja, as well as in the military barracks.